Design a Life with White S.P.A.C.E.

“white space” – the empty space between and around the essential elements of a design

A good designer knows that “white space” is critical to an elegant design.

And a good composer knows when to add silence to emphasize the beauty of their composition.

Designing a life is no different.  When you have the right amount of white space, your life will feel like a great symphony.  With harmony, rhythm and flow in all the right places.

By adding SPACE you will find the sweet spot where ABUNDANCE + CREATIVITY + PRODUCTIVITY intersect.

To do this, pay attention to the essential elements in your life.  And make sure that they have enough space around them to allow you to honor what’s important.

That’s it.  Just leave space around your essential bits, and your essential self will have room to emerge!

Clear SPACE in your life for what’s essential.  Make room for  STILLNESS | PLAY | ACTION | CONNECTION | ENERGY and clarity will emerge.  Identify the daily practices, systems, and personal rituals to help you do this.

STILLNESS.

Find time to be still every day. Traditional meditation, a walk in nature, whatever works for you. Whether it’s for 4 minutes or an hour. Schedule it.

The constancy of stillness… only from that place can you create your best work and your best life. — Oprah Winfrey

PLAY.

Play is not just joyful and energizing — it’s deeply connected to our development and intelligence. And a strong correlation between success and playful activity has been shown. So make time to play! To laugh. Even a forced smile can improve your mood. Smile muscles activate endorphins + immune boosting T-cells.

To thrive in our wild new world you would be well advised to play until you can’t think. — Martha Beck

ACTION.

Do at least one thing each day that moves you forward and is in alignment with your calling.

Vision without action is daydream. Action without vision is nightmare.  – Japanese Proverb

CONNECTION.

Get together, call, email, or write someone a note!  Connect.

“I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.”  ― Brené Brown

ENERGY.

Learn your own circadian rhythm.  Honor it.

During the day stretch. Stand up. Move around. DANCE. Do something to get your blood moving!

Science tells us we’re at our best when we move rhythmically between spending and renewing energy — a reality that companies must embrace to fuel sustainable engagement and high performance. – ― The Energy Project

When you Honor the spaces in and around the essential elements in your life, you will see your “essential self” emerge.  Try it. You’ll like it!

This is a Day (Poem)

This is a day


for contemplation and laughter


for wearing hats and silly scarves


for comfort and camaraderie


for new friends and fabulous food.


today I can be quiet,

today I can embrace my inner muse

today I shout to the rafters and giggle out loud


this is a good joke, a day of acceptance.


this is a day

of embracing my me-ness,

my I-am-what-am-ness

today is a day for embracing.


today is blue pitchers and salt + pepper shakers


today is Dopey and velvet hats and red boots.


Today is about Levis and white shirts, big hair + great earrings

today is about no pantyhose

ever.


Today I embrace 
vibrantly bohemian

-Kelly Pratt

(sometimes I write poetry.)

The Bamboo Lesson

The story of the bamboo tree keeps appearing to me lately. And it is a perfect metaphor for life, for starting a business, for just about any endeavor. Personally it fits like a glove.

In 2008 I began planting the seeds of my business as a coach and creative catalyst. Now many years later I’m experiencing a growth spurt. And many of the “seeds” I planted are bearing fruit! Just like a bamboo tree.

A lesson in patience, faith and trust (and a little bit of pixie dust!)

the Story of Chinese Bamboo Tree

Growth of the Chinese Bamboo tree requires nurturing – water, fertile soil, sunshine.

In its first year, we cannot SEE any signs of activity.

In the second year, again, nothing visible above the soil.

The third, the fourth, still nothing.

This is when many give up and move on. Lose faith. It’s difficult to believe in what we can’t see. We begin to wonder if our efforts (caring, water, etc.) will ever be rewarded.

But then…in the fifth year – the bamboo tree breaks the soil and grows 80 feet in just six weeks!

Call it a miracle.
Call it overnight success.
Or know that it is really about belief in what you have to offer the world.

Pay attention.
Think bigger.
Put it out there.
Get busy!

All it takes is patience, faith and trust and ACTION (and a little bit of pixie dust!)

The Delicate Dance or Why You Need Someone Else to Lead

Julia Cameron says “...it is a delicate dance knowing when to be stubborn in our knowing and when to open to input and others’ knowing.”

I’m like many other women in our society who try to do everything themselves, be all things to all people – not asking for help or input… I’ve even been accused of trying to lead when dancing. Hard to believe, but true! haha.

Whether creating art, a business plan or dinner, we somehow feel that we must be perfect, STRONG, and all knowing…

But I’m learning, slowly, that Perfectionism can be a demanding partner – and can make for a lonely journey.  That much of the joy of life – exhilaration in fact – comes when you have the alchemy of two individuals combining to create something amazing.  And that there is a tremendous sense of relief when you have a cohort of trusted friends and colleagues to listen to, brainstorm with or (!!) give it over to!